Dear Dad,
I am ever so inspired by great couples; men and
women who embody excellence as they pursue lasting marriages and stable homes
for their families. After watching the Democratic convention last night as
President Obama gave an amazing speech I could not help but to see a man who
loved his family. Above all the conversations about taxes, American rights,
jobs, education, and so on, I saw a man who publically displays Your
definition of what a man should be as it relates to family. We live in such an
obscure society where men are totally driven by the physical attributes of a woman, to the point that they intentionally fail to analyze her character. We live in a world with
women who have no idea of what substance is, portraying a façade and putting on
just to get a “man”. Morals, values, and standards have gone aloof, while the
appreciation for women who have zero substance is on the rise and in demand.
Even to the point that women who once had some moral standards have done away
with the timeless standard of womanhood, developing this limited superficial
persona that yields unstable homes, confused children, and a warped view of what
true love between a man and a woman really is.
Men have adapted mundane standards for choosing a mate, pursing relationships with a
lackluster approach and ignorant scale measuring a woman by her ability to
perform in the bedroom. Father, as women we are not any better, as soon as we
see someone we like we anticipate the time in which we will give up the
cookies, and formulate ways of which we can “hook” him, only to realize (to
both the man and the woman’s surprise) that our hook is made of a flimsy
material that is not water proof, or weather resistant. We look to reality
shows to model or compare our relationships? What in the world has happened to
us that we feel accomplished if our jacked up relationships are “at least”
better than the fools on TV, that clearly have no idea of what a relationship
is. Why settle for “at least” when You have “the most” for us??? Men select mates from the credentials established by rappers, athletes, and reality looser, and expect
women to look and act like talentless, moraless, unethical, and LIFELESS Barbie
dolls, adding the phrase “at least the sex is good” to justify their
stupid choices and unfilled lives! Men do you not deserve “the most” as well?
Really?!?! No wonder our generation is so lost, the
children behind us are facing a hopeless future morally, and society is now the author for the standards of men and women crafting individuals who have nothing
to do with Your ageless design. We have inherited the lies from society and even repeat that “there is no formula for a great, lasting relationship”. Well I
refuse to accept that lie, I recognize that that statement is indeed untrue and a hoax
to keep people operating in darkness and foolishness. The formula is and can be
found in Your Word the BIBLE!! So aside from the select few that realize Your design, no one
wants to wait until marriage for sex, no one wants to discipline themselves
long enough to know a persons character, better yet establish one for
themselves, and lastly nobody seeks You while making decisions pre, during, and
post relationships. God I am sorry for being that person, dating that person,
and leaving You out of my life for soooo long, taking on, believing, and
modeling the behaviors of this world to belong in a "relationship". As a single
woman, I choose to develop and foster our relationship, trusting You enough to
know without a doubt (perfect faith) that You will NOT withhold anything good
from me, and Your way is the ABSOLUTE BEST!!
Kristen
Word on the Go: 1 Corinthians 7:1-4; 32 Ephesians 5:22-30 John 14:6 & Jeremiah 29:11-13
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Chorinthians: 7:1-4 Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes,
it is good to abstain from sexual relations.2 But
because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife,
and each woman should have her own husband.
3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs,
and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to
her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife
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Corinthians 7: 32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this
life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking
how to please him.
Ephesians
5: 22-30 For
wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as
Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church.
24 As the church submits to Christ, so
you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives,
just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the
cleansing of God’s word.27 He
did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or
wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.
28 In the same way, husbands ought to
love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife
actually shows love for himself. 29 No
one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the
church. 30 And we are members
of his body.
John 14:6 Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth,
and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me
Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the plans I have for you,”
says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for
disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you
pray, I will listen. If you look for me
wholeheartedly, you will find me
